Saturday, March 12, 2011

Values.. Morals.. and Me.

My Grandmother.. How I do miss her.

 Today I went to our towns Antique and Craft show, it was held at our local mall, Hillsboro Outlets.  I fell in love with the Antique items, Vintage shoes,  the refurbished old cars, and then something happened: 

I was brought back to another place and time.  It made me think and question a few things.. Not about myself, but about change.  I know I said it before, and more then ever, It rang true today .. I have an old soul.  I can't help it, and frankly, I don't want to. It's who I am.  There are things in life, I just wont give up.  I refuse to give up.

I love Antiques hats...
: values especially of a traditional or conservative kind which are held to promote the sound functioning of the family and to strengthen the fabric of society.
of or relating to principles of right and wrong in behavior : ethical <moral judgments> b : expressing or teaching a conception of right behavior <a moral poem> c : conforming to a standard of right behavior d : sanctioned by or operative on one's conscience or ethical judgment <a moral obligation> e : capable of right and wrong action <a moral agent>

Now, who am I to judge anyone? No body.  And this is not a judgment blog.   This is about me, and what I feel.. and no one else.  Now that we got that out in the open, lets continue....
To answer the lingering question.. have I heard from Wolverine?  The answer is No.  And I am perfectly fine with that..  As it turns out, we weren't on the same playing field.   That doesn't mean he was a bad person, or did something to me.  It simply means, we have different Values and Morals.  And I  have no intentions of swaying from mine. 
Just loves these shoes...
I like the whole Courting idea.. a gentleman comes calling and takes a lady out... He is in fact a Gentleman, and when the night is through, unless the lady invites him in for coffee or a night cap, he escorts her to the door, and sees to it that she enters safely.. and politely walks away.  Even if she, in fact invites him in, the term coffee or drinks (night cap), means just that.
I like it when a man knocks on my door for me properly.  Whats with all the horn blowing these days anyway.  What happened to showing respect to the lady.  Park your car, and walk to my front door, then knock.  Polity escort me to the car, open the door, and when I am seated, close the door.  It seems like men have gotten away from this, and women are just fine with that.  
Old Fashion, I am not.  If you both are taking the next step together, and you have come to the conclusion that you both are in fact a couple, then proceed with your relationship. And that, by far, means you should stop showing respect to the lady.   I don't like unannounced visits by men callers.  I think it is in poor taste.  A women should be aware when a man plans on visiting. I don't think a woman should call on a man either, it doesn't look good, and could send the wrong message... not only to the man, but also to the neighbors watching.

Vintage and Beautiful
Like I said, I have a set of Values and Morals that will not be broken.  And I know this is the 20th century. I know times have changed.    But what changed with the times, in my opinion, shouldn't have.  Men should respect women wishes today, just like they did back then.  Courting or Dating, should be for the purpose of finding Mr and Mrs Right... not Mr and Mrs Right Now.   And though I did not save myself for marriage, I did marry him... and later divorced him for infidelity reasons, but that's another blog.

Would there be less divorces in the world, if men and women had the same Values and Morals today, as yesteryear?  Would our children carry on the same Values and Morals, if they hadn't changed with the times?  

When my children were small, I led them, by example.  I never put myself in a questionable situation, where my husband had to ever wonder what I was doing.  I never believed in the whole "let me ask my husband", but because of the vows I had taken, I made sure my actions wouldn't leave my husband guessing.  It's called Respect.  Now, if only he had done the same.

To this day, if some one should come calling for my son in law, even his brother... my daughter Tabitha, out of respect for her husband, will greet the guess at the door and talk with them on the porch.  Why?  Because of Respect... how would it look if she invited another man (no matter who it was) to step over the threshold of her husbands?  And my son in law, would do the same thing.  

I can't help who I am.  And, if I was only looking for Mr Right Now, it would bother me that Wolverine hasn't called.  But, I'm not looking short term.  I don't want just the intimate portions of a dating relationship, I want the whole relationship.  I want the unity of two people, bringing both of their lives together as one.  So, I wish Mr. Wolverine well.  I hope he finds what he is looking for, and if he should find the one that changes him,  then I wish him all the happiness in the world.  

Old settings are fabulous.
As for me?  I will keep looking, for some where out there is
my other half.  The one who shares the same Values and Morals
as myself.  One who wants to be treated like a Gentleman...
If you should see him, with his walking stick in hand, taking a stroll 
on the streets, whistling an evening tune;  please remind him gently,
that I am waiting....

I, so,  see myself in this era...

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